I don't have experience of EV chargers, but have dealt with switching large power levels to capacitive loads before.
Several approaches are commonly used:
- NTC varistor to provide in-rush limiting. Predictability of load, ongoing power dissipation, and recovery time for cyclic switching may be an issue.
- As above, but with a fixed resistor (for current limit) and a second relay to short after initial period. Both relays have to be rated for near full current.
- As above, with resistor just sized for slow "pre-charge". Only main relay needs full current rating, but remote end needs to be compatible with pre-charge approach.
- Inclusion of a charging inductor to limit initial inrush. Potential for spike on "off", but can be used with snubber, and potentially inductor may be part of PSU circuit (if DC)
- With AC switching (as the question indicates), then a zero-crossing circuit will help with capacitive load (but not with inductive), by connecting at the point of minimum voltage.
Which approach is best/used will depend on a range of factors, including: cost, space, characteristics of supply & load.
Having said all of that, I would expect that the EV vehicle may well have its own active inrush limiter, so this may be a non-issue. I'd look at the detailed charging specs for confirmation.